“This is why it’s so easy to fall in love with strangers.” They say, it’s so easy to fall in love with your neighbor, so it’s pretty hard to stay in love. This doesn’t seem like love at all.
And yet, we get so carried away by the moment that we forget who we really are and the person we really are with. We just accept who we’ve been born as. And let’s face it, we’re not even sure what the purpose of this being human is. If we were born as a loving creature, then why do we have to fight for our rights?
I’ve seen this movie before, and we only realize the true character of the person when he or she looks in the mirror and we see who we really are. That’s when we stop being us and start seeing the role we are playing. When we stop being ourselves, then we become a bunch of strangers.
And that person we’ve just started liking and loving, the one who we’ve been attracted to and enthralled with for many years, the one we were ready to be with, the one we found beautiful, the one we never wanted to get off of that first date, turns out to be another type of person. The person who takes too long to come and we’re relieved when they do come. The person who changes the subject from “What was your worst memory on that first date?” to “What was your best memory on that first date?”
We only see that person for a short period of time before we either go back to our old selves, or we make a decision to discard that person and move on. This is why it’s so easy to fall in love with strangers. It’s not that we aren’t already love, it’s just that we lose ourselves so much easier than we would like to admit.
Love comes from within and grows from within, that’s what we’re meant to do. So, don’t worry about “Who’s left” when you start falling in love with your husband.
As you grow into your marriage, you’ll see that there are far more men who are not to be trusted than there are women. And if you’re asking, “Is it too late to save my marriage?” or “How can I save my marriage from going away,” you’re right.
If you have a chance to talk to men who are dating women who come from another culture or another country, you will see that these are not strangers. They are not strangers at all.
Everyone has a story, and everyone has a different story. Find your story, believe in it, and start living it.
For me, that’s what love is really about. And no matter how many times I say it, the words are just never enough. I hope you will join me.
So, no matter where you’re from, or where you are now, you are worth loving and you are worth remembering. It’s just time to stop being a part of the pack and start being yourself.
If you’re dating a stranger, then get over it. It’s only you who knows that you’re worth knowing.